So I'm trying to create a good food analogy for describing the
complexities of sexuality to people. Let me know how you think this
works. Feel free to tell me to add on if I missed something, or correct
me if i'm wrong.
There is still plenty that I don't know and I'd love to learn
Sexual orientation = specific dessert craving.
Sex = eating the dessert
Looking at it = appreciating that someone is attractive.
Making the dessert = desire to know the person romantically (dating) Romantic orientation
Hunger = sex drive/ libido
Heterosexual = I only crave cake. Even if I’m not hungry right now I the thought of eating cake makes me happy.
Hetero-romantic = I only want to make cake.
Homosexual = I only crave pie. Even if I’m not hungry right now I the thought of eating pie makes me happy.
Homo-romantic = I only want to make pie
Bisexual = I like both desserts, not necessarily for the same reasons but I like them both.
My version of bisexuality/ my attraction: I
like cake, but I prefer making it and how it looks. I could eat cake,
but it would probably upset my stomach. I love pie. I enjoy making,
looking at, and eating pie.
Bi-romantic = I like making both cake and pie
Pansexual = I don’t have a favorite dessert, I enjoy all types of dessert.
Pan-romantic = I enjoy making all sorts of desserts.
Asexual = I don’t get dessert cravings. I still get hungry, but I
don’t have a dessert that I crave. I would rather make the dessert and
look at it, than eat it.
- Demi-sexual = I don’t get cravings for the dessert unless I’ve
made it many times and know the recipe well. I only crave the individual
dish not the dessert universally. ( in this sense making can be getting
to know someone either romantically or platonically)
- Gray-asexual = I very
rarely get dessert cravings, but I will once in a while when I see a
(insert preferred dessert here) that looks very appetizing to me.
- Aromantic = I’d rather not make dessert. *some may still have dessert cravings*
*disclaimer* Romantic and sexual orientations don't always line up.
For example someone might enjoy making all types of desserts, but only
crave and enjoy eating pie.